Licensed Professional Counselor-Supervisor
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Individual session is $165
Family session is $180
I am considered out-of-network with insurance
I grew up in a strict Christian home, for which I am grateful. Right and wrong were always clear. The zeal for living righteously brought difficulties. In addition, my family was quite dysfunctional in a number of areas. Shame and loneliness were always with me in varying degrees. Unwanted sexual behaviors provided momentary relief, but only left me in a deeper state of shame and fear of being exposed. What I really wanted and needed was genuine connection which all human beings need for healthy living.
Being a man of faith and conviction, I did what I knew to do. I prayed to God to take my desires away and I repented of my sin. I believed (and still do) God heard and accepted my prayers. As a therapist, I applied to myself what I knew worked for other people. But the behaviors came back. I refused “accountability partners” because I already saw myself as less than….?? I did not want to put myself in a position where I (the lesser) reported to an accountability partner (the greater). I observed that these arrangements did not work long term. None of my efforts were getting to the core of my needs or the obstacles that prevented me from getting these needs met.
In desperation I started therapy with a man who is now a close friend. He did not shame or blame me but met me in my well-guarded state. He taught me to identify my feelings and follow them to their respective sources which were the barriers to my healing. The result has been, as I moved along in healing, the shame that drove the unwanted behaviors dissipated and the conduct went away.
I offer a 5 Phase process to help men to determine the origins and deterrents that keep them stuck in unwanted behaviors, then work with them to resolve the obstacles. Phase I – Telling your story; Phase II – Looking at the behavior(s); Phase III – What triggers the behavior(s); Phase IV – Resolving the underlying issues; Phase V – Maintenance. This 5 Phase process is always done with respect, in complete confidence and in a non-shaming/blaming manner.
I earned my BA in Elementary Education from the University of Findlay (Ohio) in 1986 and my M.Ed. in counseling in 1994 from Prairie View A&M University.
I look forward to meeting and walking with you on your healing journey. Please give me a call at 713-449-2225 to book you appointment.